✏ The Prevent Mindset: Avoiding Average

For those who are football fans, you have most likely heard the term the “prevent defense”. It’s used late in the 4th quarter when a coach feels like they have a safe lead, so they adjust into a defensive formation to prevent the opposing team from scoring a field goal or touchdown by giving more space to receivers and pushing the secondary a few yards back so they don’t give up the big play. For those who may not be familiar with what I am talking about, an easy way to think about it is the defense is in a formation to “prevent” the big play from happening – which could threaten the lead, or even risk the loss.

Most fans don’t necessarily agree with this approach. In fact, on numerous occasions, you will see that the offense is prepared and have worked on this “prevent” formation and it becomes a game of chess. The problem is, the defense is playing checkers. This is where the phrase “All the prevent defense does is prevent you from winning!” comes from.

Any given Sunday, you may see this ploy, but I want you to think about it through a different lens.

For leaders, there are times where we feel things are going according to plan, our teams are meeting expectations and there is a momentum occurring — and we don’t want to break the stride. Instead of raising the bar to see if the team can achieve a little more, we subscribe to a “prevent mindset,”  which in essence is just a comfort zone. But let me challenge you . . .

Which is the better time to show those your team that they are capable of achieving more than they think they can, in good times or in bad?  Would you raise the bar when the team’s goals become so unattainable and their attitudes reflect discouragement, or when they are on a roll and things are falling into place as a result of the business plan, effective leadership and a synergy of accomplishment? Obviously the second choice.

“Leadership is the challenge to be something more than average.”

— Jim Rohn

Don’t fall into the prevent mindset, if you do, you may fall into the trap of accepting the status quo. I believe the status quo is average people leading average lives with average fulfillment and average accomplishments.

You are not average. 

You are not working to achieve average. You lead with a goal of making an impact and eliciting greatness out of others. That will not occur with a prevent mindset. Raise the bar, push those you lead to get comfortable being uncomfortable. Use their current state of success to drive them to the next level. Here are a few examples of what makes a strong leader:

  • Strong leaders work directly with their teams in highlighting respective strengths to identify specific goals that push their efforts in such a way that it elicits excitement
  • Strong leaders get involved in the solution rather than just identifying the problem
  • Strong leaders are optimistic that those they lead will be successful, and are willing to empower them to build the confidence they need to exceed expectations

If you are midway through an objective, and not only do the analytics support a successful approach, but the enthusiasm and buy-in of your team reinforce it – then raise the bar. Be specific in your communication why you are doing it. Challenge your team to exceed expectations at every opportunity that presents itself. Not only will it raise the morale of the team, but the confidence it instills in the individual is priceless. There is no training that can replicate the improvements in the fundamental skill sets that happen when you turn up the speed from a comfortable pace. You do it gradually — never accelerate to a point that the distance between where they are and where you intend to take them becomes a struggle. Otherwise, you risk burnout.

As a leader, you will need to have the Plan A (what you are currently a part of),  a Plan B (the acceleration), and even a Plan C (the control plan to ensure you find equilibrium).

It’s the leadership equivalent of always playing offense – control the ball, dictate the momentum, control the timing, and be proactive rather than reactive. These are the teams that are successful because they play with the advantage. If you are on the defensive side, you are forced to react. In some cases, there may not even be a chance for adjustment before you realize the loss.

Eliminating the “prevent mindset” shows a proactive approach to success. If you train and communicate it effectively, you will in turn create better leaders. After all, that is the goal? A successful leader’s intent is to always to build more successful leaders.

Don’t PREVENT it from happening!

Go do great things today and make a difference.

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✏ Attention, Future Leaders

Have you ever caught yourself saying, “if I only knew then what I know now…”?

What if you could do something about it?

If you are a parent, grandparent, coach, teacher or friend and you recognize certain leadership traits in a child, you have an opportunity to do three simple things right now:

ENCOURAGE, SUPPORT & TEACH

All of us have the potential to lead. There is no certain age that defines when we can begin our quest to gain the skills and competencies necessary to start the journey. By reaching out to adolescents who feel the gift of leadership inside them, you have the ability to become their first mentor — because most simply don’t know how to act upon it.

“Our children are only as brilliant as we allow them to be.”

– Eric Micha’el Leventhal

When you see the unwavering passion and belief that anything is possible from a child, and they communicate excitement and vision as they discover and learn more, be humbled and accept the responsibility to steer them in the right direction.

It’s teaching them that leadership is simply when one feels compelled to achieve things by being courageous and bold. What an amazing role you can play by encouraging them to step out of their comfort zone and discover all life has to offer.

Good habits formed during youth make all the difference.

The world needs a new set of eyes, a big heart and an open mind filled with endless possibilities for the next generation to be the greatest that ever lived. 

“The youth are the hope of our future.”

– Jose Rizal

How can you help a child discover their potential?

  1. Be the Example – Display the traits necessary to be a successful leader in everything you do. You have the capability to play a key role in the development of their potential.  Show them what’s really important in life and not to sweat the small stuff.
  1. Show Them How to Succeed – Whether through simple exercises of goal setting, or working through a challenge, provide them the chance to witness and feel the thrill of being successful.
  1. Allow Creative Thought – Encourage them to create their own path to solutions without persuasion, even if you know they may fail. Simply encourage their passion and self-esteem and show them failing isn’t the end of the world.
  1. Emphasize the Importance of Character and Integrity – Show them the importance of never wavering on their core principles or sacrificing the right thing for the easy solution. These lessons will last a lifetime and earn them respect from the beginning.
  1. Teach Them the Importance of Teamwork –Help them understand the importance of working with others, being respectful, encouraging those around them and being a good listener.
  1. Help Them Understand How to be Bold and Courageous –It’s the willingness to step outside of their comfort zone to be innovative and create new solutions. Reward them for going beyond the norm in their thought process. Help them discover leaders who were doubted at first, but then lauded for being pioneers. Show them anything is possible.
  1. Encourage Them to Be Involved in Their Community – Help them research to find a cause or a non-profit that excites them. This will shape not only their mind, but their hearts, as well.
  1. Find Other Mentors – Don’t just stop at what you can contribute, reach out to others that may share the same interests as your future leader. The more people they are able to interact with, the better they become at communication skills and learning. I am confident that if you reached out to a friend and asked for help, they would be humbled.
  1. Read, read and read some more – The importance of reading is critical for one to understand what knowledge can provide them, along with the creativity, and critical thinking, that will unlock the door of endless possibilities.
  1. Teach Gratitude – We all need to be reminded of the importance of being grateful and that there is so much good in the world. Do not allow them to become distracted by the enemy, which is negativity. Remind them each day of the gifts they possess.

Go do big things today and make a difference . . .

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✏ Take Action Now

Today is the day you take a step forward. No more “letting” things happen in your life . . . it’s time to take control and MAKE THINGS HAPPEN. Take control of your future and let today be the day you begin your courageous effort to lead!

LIFE IS WAITING TO BEGIN!

Passivity is the enemy . . .

Personal change is an active process. Take the first steps now to act and be bold.

Let’s get all of the excuses out there. If you need to, make a list. Write down every excuse that you can think of. We tend to always focus on why we “can’t”, so this shouldn’t be too challenging.

  • I’ve got too much on my plate right now
  • It’s not the right time
  • I’m not ready for change
  • I’m afraid of what I might be getting myself into
  • I don’t think I will be successful

All done? Now, it’s time to change your mindset. Ask yourself one simple question:

IF NOT NOW, WHEN?

Today is the day that you have the clarity and courage to listen to that inner voice that wants to break out of its shell, to change your mentality from a follower to a leader. Build the confidence to overcome that self-doubt. Develop a “no barriers” mindset and face your fears head-on.  It only takes one step forward to begin.

Here are the 5 things you are going to do today to prepare for action:

  1. Write down your action plan, and include your “why” and purpose.

Writing down what you are going to do versus just saying it is the game changer. The next step is put those words into actionable phrases. How are you going to reach the objectives you identify, step by step? NOTE: This can only be done once you establish your “why” and your “purpose”.

Your “why” will give your life clarity and purpose — and as a result, it will shape who you are. You will clearly know what you want out of life. When you know your perspective about life, you can achieve amazing things. This will be the foundation of your growth as you climb the ladder to success. To find your why, dig deep and reach for a high level of self-awareness. What are your strengths? What can you contribute? What are your core principles that make you unique?

 

  1. Find somebody to hold you accountable.

Find a mentor! Find somebody who believes in you as much, if not more, than you do in yourself. Success cannot be obtained without the willingness of others to contribute their passion, and empower others to feel inspired and motivated to be the best they can.

Where do you find a mentor? If they aren’t right in front of you, then do your research and find the person who is where you want to be. Thanks to social media, most of us have a friend, or friend of a friend, who can make the introduction and get the process started. The process is up to you.  If you are willing to do the work, and have the passion to drive you, your mentor will be the difference in building yourself in an efficient and successful manner.

There is a catch here. If you find that person and you get the motivation and inspiration you need, it is your responsibility to pay it forward!

 

  1. Set realistic goals and establish a workable timeframe for each.

Now that you have an action plan and you understand and believe in your “why” and purpose statements, the next step is to set realistic goals for yourself and establish a timeframe for each. For example, based on the profession you are in, what skills do you need to sharpen to be at the top of your game? Do you understand the value proposition (what specific benefits you offer that bring value) for your product and company? Do you have a firm grip on the competitive landscape?

Answer these questions and begin to establish each of your goals. Research, read, and navigate the influential thought leaders in your profession (people whose opinions are valued). Via social media, talk with your mentor(s) and/or expand your knowledge of the market.To the right of the column with your goals, put a firm deadline to hold yourself accountable on achieving each and hold to it. Don’t give up, stay the course.

 

  1. Align your values with your actions.

Make sure that your core foundation is built upon integrity, character, courage, inspiration and gratitude. If you are built in this fashion, then your actions will reflect it in everything you do. These are the traits that define the best leaders, because they consistently show others their belief in them, and in turn, empower them to succeed.

Without values, your leadership will be meaningless. It will be hollow, uneventful and even worse, those whom you lead will gain nothing from you.

 

  1. Spend more time developing YOU.

Most important, don’t ever stop developing you. Success is a journey, not a destination. Your advancement is also a journey; there is no end. The most important investment you can make in your success is in YOU. 

Self-development means creating successful habits, employing patience, growing your professional circle and building your confidence every day.

 

Inspire action by painting a vision of what success looks like to you. Let this be your alarm clock to tell you it’s time to wake up and change the world. Become a visionary and eliminate passivity as an excuse. The world is yours — make a difference!

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✏ Be the One Percent

“Ninety-nine percent of the failures come from people
who have the habit of making excuses”.

– George Washington Carver

If I were to outline, in detail, the secret to success and provide an actual timeline and blueprint on how you could achieve it, what percentage of people would actually commit to learning, understanding and consciously adapting practical application to make the necessary changes in their lives to make it happen?

I’m going to stick with that one percent, with the hope that it motivates you.

For starters, there are no secrets to success.

Success is:

  • Hard work
  • Commitment,
  • Perseverance,
  • Self-discipline,
  • Gratitude
  • A growth mindset

Don’t waste your time or money on anybody who claims to be the prophet of the secrets to success for a price.

As for the blueprint, that’s entirely up to you. Success is a journey, but the beauty within that journey is that it becomes a discovery.

You begin to find your:

  • Purpose
  • Passion
  • Your why

But you must have the willingness to have:

  • The dream
  • Discipline
  • Consistency
  • And the focused ability to achieve your goals.

It’s about growth, and with growth, we have a guarantee that tomorrow is going to be better than today.

“And will you succeed? Yes you will indeed!
(98 and ¾ percent guaranteed).”

– Dr. Seuss

It’s the other 99% who live with unfulfilled potential and hold onto talents that are never used. They allow excuses, fear of failure, laziness and a lack of commitment and purpose to distort their vision and effort.

They will call those that succeed “lucky”. However, their narrow-mindedness misses a critical point: the harder you work, the luckier you tend to be.

They will say “Why not me?”. The answer is simple; instead of complaining, make the appropriate changes in your life that will get you on the right track so it can be you who succeeds.

The worst mindset to have? Entitlement. You aren’t owed anything in this world, you have to work for it. If you want it bad enough, go out and earn it, but don’t have the notion that anything is automatic.

“If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more,
do more and become more, you are a leader.”

– John Quincy Adams

Enough about the 99%, I want to focus on YOU, the one percent who wake up each day with a purpose and mission to make an impact. YOU are inspired, and YOU inspire others by your gratitude, actions and examples. YOU are a different breed.

Top Ten Characteristics that set the one percent apart:

  1. Passion

When you have an intense desire to succeed, nothing can stop you from achieving your goals and your passion becomes the fuel that drives you.

  1. Integrity

It’s about doing the right thing despite influence or personal gain. It’s what separates good from great.

  1. Gratitude

Leaders find the good all around them and acknowledge it. If you want to earn respect, focus on recognizing improvement rather than criticizing faults. Every day that you wake up, you already have something to be grateful for.

  1. Goal setters

Effective leaders live life according to the goals they set daily, weekly, monthly and yearly. These goals provide direction, and without that, you end up being lost.

  1. Failure

Fail, fail and fail again! Don’t call yourself a leader unless you can show me all the mistakes it took to get where you are today. Successful people understand that failure is a part of the process, they get back up when they get knocked down. Believe in yourself, don’t allow any barrier to detour you from success.

  1. Positivity

Positivity is a choice. Speak positivity into those around you and it will come back to you. Advice: surround yourself with those who you admire, respect and aspire to model and eliminate the dead weight and negativity around you.

  1. Mindset

Mindset is everything. When you master your mindset, you have the ability to achieve the level of success you desire. A mindset is simply a belief. As a result, a mindset can be changed, influenced, learned and reinforced. Mindset allows you to value the process vs. the result and cultivates a sense of purpose.

  1. Learning

We have heard the phrase, “never stop learning because life never stops teaching”: those words couldn’t be more right. Challenge and motivate yourself to grow through knowledge, reading, listening, watching and asking questions. Those aren’t weaknesses, they are examples of what it takes to be an effective leader.

  1. Mentors

We all need somebody to challenge our thought, ask the tough questions and provide us education through self-discovery in order to succeed. If you are willing, there are mentors all around you. Don’t wait for them to find you, reach out and communicate your passion for growth and ask for their time. Leadership is a privilege and if they follow that mantra, they understand that they have an obligation to pay it forward.

  1. Dreamers

These are the leaders who are courageous, bold innovators and have an unwavered entrepreneurial spirit about them. Their oxygen comes four words, “It. Can’t. Be. Done.” They thrive outside the comfort zone and take calculated risks to achieve their goals.

Be the one percent who lives by the fact that there is no substitute for hard work. Day in, day out — commit yourself to giving all of yourself toward making an impact, empowering others and eliciting the greatness in people around you to make a difference in your family, work and community. One percent is a misleading number; with a focused effort, you have the ability to affect the other 99%’s belief in themselves, to rediscover their passion, find the positivity, listen to the mentors and change their environment to grow.

Are you with me, 99%?  Let’s do it…

“Don’t be afraid to give up the good to go for the great.”

– John D. Rockefeller

Go do great things today and make a difference.

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✏ Leadership in 30 Seconds

I was recently asked by one of our followers on Charge Up if I could “define leadership in 30 seconds.” Being such a broad concept, it was a great opportunity for me to put pen to paper and see if my definition actually matches my actions.

As a result, I found this exercise to be extremely beneficial in reminding myself of what my “why” and purpose is. After 25 years in a leadership role, the words may change a bit, but my core principles will never waiver. For me, they are integrity, character and honesty.

I not only responded, but also created a podcast around this same topic because I think it’s a great exercise for a leadership role, young or old.

MY DEFINITION OF LEADERSHIP IN 30 SECONDS:

First and foremost, LEADERSHIP IS A PRIVILEGE. It’s an opportunity to inspire and empower others who are willing to invest in their goals and help them to push past the barriers, so they can find their purpose, courage and passion.

It’s about integrity, and never allowing yourself to waiver from that foundation of honesty, respect and trust.

It’s also about failure, and finding the lessons within each barrier to discover a different path and create a new mindset to achieve your goals.

Leadership is a never-ending journey. It is a destination that you are always trying to reach but find a unique joy in the ride.

SO NOW I CHALLENGE YOU . . .

Put pen to paper and write what comes from your heart — not what you think the definition should be, but what you sincerely believe and either aspire to or already communicate as a leader.  As stated above, if you are a leader with a few years under your belt, it’s a great tool to ensure you’re still focused on what’s important.

Leadership in and of itself takes a tremendous amount of effort, but if you have the passion for it and the gift to help others achieve their goals, it is one of the most rewarding roles you will ever play.

Put the time and energy into it now and just be patient. Never stop growing and make sure your decisions are always based on your core values You are building your legacy . . . do it with pride.

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✏ Shortcuts to Success

There are two shortcuts to success:

  1. There are no shortcuts
  2. See #1

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✏ A New Youth Movement in Leadership?

Is there such thing as a fast-track leadership program?

When we talk about leadership, we typically emphasize the “journey”. We highlight words like patience, experience, knowledge, trust, tenure, etc.  Leadership is an earned role that comes through respect, and it takes time to earn respect.

However, there are headlines out there that will tell you to the contrary that there is a youth movement taking place amongst the Fortune 500 C-Suite executives. Just look at these young leaders:

  • Mark Zuckerburg, CEO & Chairman of Facebook, 34 years old
  • Keith Cozza, CEO & Director of Icahn Enterprises LP, 39 years old
  • Larry Page, CEO & Director of Alphabet, Inc., 45 years old
  • Jeffrey Brown, CEO & Director of Ally Financial, 45 years old

It certainly does look like there is a changing of the guard when it comes to the age of CEO right now. Think about all of those dot.com entrepreneurs who made millions before they were even 30 years old. There are stories all over Silicon Valley of overnight CEO successes.  The narratives are all the same: you just need some angel investors, a great idea, an IPO and the world is yours . . .

— WE INTERRUPT THIS BLOG FOR A VERY IMPORTANT MESSAGE —

Enter 2007-2008, when the United States experienced a financial crisis termed the “Great Recession”, which was compared to the “Great Depression” of the 1930’s. There is one thing a financial crisis will always teach you about leadership — when there is concern about financial stability, constant scrutiny, a complete lack of accountability, and a loss of trust by the American people, it’s time to bring in the old guard who can handle these situations.

“Be fearful when others are greedy, be greedy when other people are fearful.”

Warren Buffett

May I introduce you to a few veterans who can fix just about anything who just so happen to be in the Fortune Top 100 CEO’s Listing:

  • Warren Buffett, CEO of Berkshire Hathaway, 85 years old
  • Sheldon G. Anderson, CEO of the Las Vegas Sands, 82 years old
  • Roger Penske, CEO of the Penske Automotive Group, 79 years old
  • Allan Miller, CEO and Chairman of Universal Health Services, 77 years old

You may have noticed, but we just took a 180º from the beginning of the blog to this point. It was necessary to prove my position and bring you back to reality: where leadership is developed through a mindset of skills and behaviors that require experience, and experience equals time.

There is no rule that says, “you must be this age to lead”, but there are considerations that come into play in order to maintain the tremendous pace and deal with the immense pressures of being a leader and having accountability for the success of the people under your direction and the profitability of the company.

Are there exceptions to the rule? No doubt there are, there are exceptions to every rule. However, when discussing leadership, don’t follow the “get rich quick method” because you will be the first to fail. If you don’t respect the process, you won’t experience the rewards.

The key is to focus on YOU. What are your aspirations? What are your goals? What are your strengths?

WHAT DO YOU WANT TO ACCOMPLISH, AND HOW ARE YOU GOING TO GET THERE?

This is your legacy — create it page by page in tremendous detail and explanation so others can learn from your journey.

To an extent, leadership is like beauty; it’s hard to define, but you
know it when you see it.

If you aspire to be a leader, do it for the right reasons – to inspire and empower others. Leadership is all about giving more than you take.  Don’t graduate from college and expect the “golden egg”, start from the bottom and learn every function of the profession you strive to make a difference. No shortcuts, no excuses; put in the hard work and the blue sky can be yours.

As I wrap this up, here are a few facts for you to ponder:

Most CEOs range in age from 47 – 63 years old

(https://www.alvarezandmarsal.com/sites/default/files/files/Age-CEO-CFO-COO.pdf)

The average tenure of a CEO is 9.7 years for Fortune 500 companies

(https://www.creditdonkey.com/ceo-statistics.html)

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✏ The Power of Empathy

Powerful leadership requires a sincere empathy toward those you lead.

Empathy is not a weakness. Empathy is a strength.

However, there seems to be a disconnect in understanding the differences between “empathy” and “sympathy.” Sympathy is feeling compassion, sorrow, or pity for the hardships that another person encounters, while empathy is putting yourself in the shoes of another.

“Empathy fuels connection; sympathy drives disconnection.”

– Brene´ Brown

Through research, I have learned that a predominant theory is that leaders tend to subscribe to two different routes for leadership. The first is a “task-oriented” style where leaders focus their behaviors on the specifics roles of the job and productivity. The second is “relations-oriented leadership,” where leaders focus on emotional behaviors to create quality relationships, such as listening, loyalty, trust, providing support and encouragement.

The leaders who were authentic and vested in following a relations-oriented leadership style were able to produce more results — and even more impressive — retain their staff for more extended periods of time. Remember, trust and respect are motivators for an employee to stay at a company even when the financial lure may be tempting.

A great employee leaves a bad leader, not a company.

How else can you effectively lead without truly understanding those that you are responsible for? To be a successful leader, it is imperative that you develop the ability to understand and share the feelings of others. This will be your connection to greatness — the switch to ignite empowerment. The trust and respect to earn loyalty.

Far too often, leaders are stubborn and lean toward the old-school management style which states that you should have a clear and distinct separation between those who work for you, and those whom you call friends. You can’t mix the two. “Having friendships with your subordinates will only create problems”, the theory says.

Through experience, observation, discussion, and application, I cannot entirely agree with this. Keeping an arm’s-length distance between yourself and your team will get you nowhere. If you want complete buy-in, loyalty, commitment, and trust, you have to be willing to step outside your comfort zone.

In my opinion, there is no way as a leader that you would have the ability to be able to map another’s thoughts, needs, motivations, feelings, attitudes beliefs and issues without empathy. People don’t want your pity; they are looking for your human side, the connection.

“Leadership is about empathy. It is about having the ability to relate to and connect with people to inspire and empowering their lives.”

– Oprah Winfrey

A sincere and empathetic relationship with your team can be the difference between achieving your objectives and falling short. It can often be the difference between good and great. If viewed as a sacrifice on your part, there may be a need for a self-awareness evaluation to ensure you can be in the role. There is a distinct difference between viewing your team as workers vs. people.

There are 5 Steps of Empathy:

  1. Listen to what the person is saying and watch their body language
  2. Remember a time when you felt the same way.
  3. Imagine how you might think about that situation. Validate the full range of emotions that come up.
  4. Ask how they are feeling. Share with them what you are noticing.
  5. Show you care through your words and actions – if you promise something, follow through

 

It has become apparent that empathy is an essential trait for 21st-century leadership and beyond. If compassion is not your strong suit as a leader, make it a priority to understand better where others are coming from. Find what inspires and motivates them, learn their triggers and discover their strengths, learn how to connect with them on an individual basis.

Balance it with your leadership style and be prepared to see positive changes occur.

Do great things today and make a difference.

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✏ Nothing Changes If Nothing Changes

The amount of negativity all around us is no longer empowering us as a society, but instead, it is slowly crippling us in a time where we need to find and acknowledge the progress, gratitude and appreciation for life to set the example for the next generation.

Too many words, not enough action. 

Too many problems, a lack of solutions. 

Too much blame, a disregard for accountability.

Too much assumption, a loss of fact.

Let me emphasize, this is not a political post. Nor do I want it to be misinterpreted as one. This is about self-awareness: an introspection of our own character and how we rationalize both our internal and external awareness in the environment we are in.

Simply put, it is about our decisions.

“Remember, a negative multiplied by a negative is only positive in math — not the real world.

– Eric Thomas, Motivational Coach

All of us need to take the time to reevaluate our priorities, values and purpose, to ask yourself, “Am I living up to my own standards each and every day?”.  As adults, each of us — regardless of race, creed, socio-economic stature, education or persuasion — are providing the ground work for a new generation of young adults who will play a critical role in our future development in society.

Do you sincerely believe that our focus is on providing a balance of both positive and negative to teach our children that there is good and bad in the world, but to also elicit the actions of problem solving and healthy, productive discussions to find unity and make an impact on the world?

Our brain is bombarded with negative influences everywhere, especially from the highest influencer, visual data. It is now estimated that upward of 90% of the news, both newspaper and television, is negative content. A 2016 review of all social media channels discovered that on average, 62% of posts and/or comments are negative-biased (statista.com).

We have developed a negativity bias in our cognitive system over time that creates “mental shortcuts” that push us toward the negative in a situation rather than actually processing it, thinking about it, using critical thought and providing an honest opinion. What influences us the most to make these shortcuts? Other people’s opinions.

It doesn’t take science to prove that we tend to lean toward the side of popular opinion as opposed to sticking with our independent belief because we fear being the outcast, or not part of the majority.  Over time, we have lost our ability to generate free and independent thought because what was once a simple discussion with others can immediately lead to a heated, emotional debate regardless of topic. Why are we so quick to attack? When did we lose the ability to listen and discover through others’ knowledge? The fireside chat has turned into protests, violence, extreme threats on social media and a focus by news outlets to intensify the situation by making light of it at every chance they get.

But if you want science to back up my position . . .  

According to Dr. Daniel Kahneman, 2002 Nobel Laureate and best-selling author of “Thinking, Fast and Slow”, people tend to take a benchmark and react to it. It actually takes effort to make an individual act and think rationally to find the support for independent thought processes. His empirical findings challenge the assumption of human rationality prevailing in modern economic theory; however, his research, results and principles are largely used by behavioral psychologists today.

“Life is a reflection of what you think. If your thoughts are negative, the world you see will be the same.”

 

– Leon Brown, MLB player

Time for me to be part of the solution, not part of the problem. Here are five ways to make positive changes in your life today that will leave a lasting impression on others, as well as make you a happier person.

  1. POSITIVE MINDSET

Surround yourself with positive people. Make sure those in your life are positive, supportive people you can depend on to give helpful advice and feedback. Negative people may increase your stress level and make you doubt your ability to manage stress in healthy ways. Practice positive self-talk. All of these things will contribute to you having a positive and productive mindset.

  1. DON’T DO IT

You know what I mean — you just need to think about it!  Don’t post on social media when you’re angry, don’t respond unless you grandmother would approve of every word you use, don’t have an opinion unless you have the knowledge and facts to back it up. Show respect and avoid the fight. Only participate if you can clearly see the intent and purpose is for a positive change. It’s one thing to post a sarcastic retort on something you disagree with; it’s another thing to have an intelligent debate while disagreeing.

  1. VOLUNTEER

Think of it like this, “Pay it Forward” and focus on what YOU can do to make a difference. Once you get the motivation to do it, you will see the immediate benefits, and a true leader will find the purpose in getting more invested in the mission. One person can make an incredible difference. Giving and gratitude go hand in hand. The more you practice it, the better you will get at it. I challenge you to take the first step, then pass it on and grow the efforts.

  1. MENTOR

When I say be a mentor, I mean take an active role in discovering what you are passionate about and go inspire others. You can find these opportunities all around you, through schools, community-based mentor programs, your church, YMCA, etc. Regardless of where you choose, mentor a young person who needs direction in their life. Teach them about life, integrity, leadership and the character and skills necessary to succeed. For some of these kids, you may be the only positive figure in their life. You can make a difference.

  1. GRATITUDE JOURNAL

For some, this may seem uncomfortable, but it is no different than journaling. I am a huge proponent of journaling; it allows me to put my thoughts, ideas, concerns, frustrations and questions on paper.  And when I write things down, I am more likely to act upon them. A component of my journaling that I learned from my father was to remember what you grateful for each day. For years, I have made it a habit to write five things down each day that I am grateful for. We all have general ones such as health, family and friends, but look deeper and put thought into it. If I can recognize the things I am grateful for before I go to bed, the odds of me waking up with the right attitude increase.

Don’t talk. Act.

Don’t say. Show.

Don’t promise. Prove.

Make a difference today.

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✏ You, Only Better: Self-Improvement for Leaders

The quest for knowledge is a never-ending journey. Anything worthwhile takes time to build. You know the saying, “Rome wasn’t built in a day”. Just in case you’re wondering: according to historians who took the time to count, it actually took 1,00,491 days. To be an effective leader today, you must make an investment in your personal development and make it a never-ending journey; there is no starting point, nor an end. The more time you spend on developing your skill sets, the more experienced you will become. Even small steps equal great distances over time.  In your journey to improve, complacency is the enemy. There is always somebody grinding harder than you looking for an opportunity.

Most people say that there aren’t enough hours in the day to set aside time for self-improvement, because of all the challenges that barrage us every day. We live in a world where there is an enormous amount of information getting thrown at us through unlimited amounts of outlets to consume. What if you looked at it another way? Let’s think about professional athletes. It may not be an “apples to apples” comparison, but stay with me for just a second. Professional athletes have their season and their off season. During the season, they work to contribute to their teams’ success by playing a role. They dedicate every aspect of their lives – from what they eat to how much they sleep to when they train. Game after game, the physical and mental toll that they go through is unimaginable to most. However, once their season ends, the real season begins – the off season.  During this time that they focus on self-improvement. They start with rest and relaxation. They heal themselves mentally and physically. They focus on getting stronger, faster and mentally prepared. They take full advantage of the time to train and perfect their skills. In some cases, they spend up to eight hours a day during the off season, six days a week.

You’re probably saying to yourself, “there is no off season for a leader.” Wrong. We may not have specific months for a regiment of self-development, but we have the same expectations and needs to focus on ourselves. If you don’t have a game plan for your off season as a leader, now is the time. Think about the opportunities you may be overlooking. Start your day earlier. Take advantage of your commute. How much time you spend on social media? Can you empower your team more to boost collaboration? Do you spend too much time on emails and texts when a call can accomplish your objective in less time?

Ok, you’ve found the time. Now, what skills can we work on in our personal development plan?

10 Things You Can Work On in the “Off Season”:

  1. Get inspired. Find something that inspires you and pursue it. Learn all you can, then find where it is applicable to your self-improvement and develop a plan of implementation
  2. Develop a new skill set. If you want to be more powerful in your life, learn more. It’s that simple!
  3. Reflect. Take an honest look at yourself and ask if you are being an effective leader. Be humble, and ask for feedback.
  4. Identify the barriers. What is in your path that may be impeding your progress?
  5. Practice patience. Patience is no longer just a virtue; it is a requirement.
  6. Pay it forward. There is no better way to improve your self worth than through humility and acts of kindness.
  7. Improve you. Take the time to focus on the most important person in this equation – you.
  8. Find a mentor. All around us there are people that not only motivate, but can inspire. Find them and engage.
  9. Learn from your team. Who is around you every day that can provide a scouting report of your skill sets?
  10. Get better. Find ways to improve managing your time, and prioritizing tasks and objectives.

 

Remember, improvement must be based on practicality. If you really want it, your actions should match your ambitions. Leaders can continuously improve and develop themselves if they have a plan and follow it. The best leaders are always honing their skill sets to become better.

The desire for self-improvement is a sign of a great leader!

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✏ Leadership GPS

Imagine if we all had our own personal “Leadership GPS” to carry with us to navigate every situation. Just a simple visual or voice prompt to guide us to the right decisions. All we would have to do is wake up, turn it on, and start our day.

Back to reality…none of us have a Leadership GPS, and likely won’t for a long while. However, we do have an internal voice — a force within all of us that can guide our decisions.

The question is, are you using it?

“There is a voice that doesn’t use words. Listen.”

– Rumi

GPS PROMPT: WHERE AM I?

Just as when we get in the car and begin to program our destination into the GPS, we also need to do the same to ourselves. It’s called SELF-EVALUATION. You need to be humble enough to know exactly who you are. Identify exactly what you are good at and what you aren’t good at. Capitalize on your strengths, and find the time to build your abilities where you have weakness.

Put your ego aside, be honest, and begin your plan of action to execute.

GPS PROMPT: HOW FAR TO DESTINATION?

You will need a map to navigate this journey and achieve the successful outcome that you are capable of.

Let’s begin the journey; in this case, we will define that “journey” as a major business objective that you are responsible for leading. Just like with a long trip, you wouldn’t go into it without preparation. The same holds true for leadership. You will need a specific plan, with identified roles and responsibilities, analytics, clarification of goals and the definition of success.

Use S.M.A.R.T. goals to create your plan: Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant and Time frame.

GPS PROMPT: QUICKEST ROUTE?

We all catch ourselves checking the GPS to see how much longer until we arrive. Applying this concept to leadership is the most concerning to me. Just like in a car, leaders are in a rush to arrive at their destination. Leadership is an earned trust, and anything earned requires time. The journey toward being an effective leader cannot occur without time and EXPERIENCE.

If you rush the process, you have cheated yourself and those who are following you.

GPS PROMPT: TRAFFIC AHEAD?

Translate this to leadership and it’s called ADVERSITY. How will you respond? Most people stay within their comfort zone, relying on the excuse of “this is how we have always done it.” Success is not complicated, but it is difficult. It means you need to have the courage to take risks knowing that you may fail. That is a bold statement, but those who can maneuver around the excuses and/or fear are the ones who succeed in the long run.

The best way to prepare for adversity is to be prepared and have alternate plans. Option A doesn’t always work, so you need to be prepared with Plans B and C along the way.

“What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as
what you become by achieving your goals.”

– Henry David Thoreau

GPS PROMPT: CHANGE ROUTE?

This ties in with SELF-EVALUATION; are you humble enough to recognize that your plan may not be the best option to get you to the point established as the end goal? Have you earned the respect from those around you for open dialogue? We all are driven to be successful, and as a leader, we understand that the wins and losses fall upon us.

However, change your mindset and the results can be different. If you have empowered others to do what’s right, as opposed to doing what’s easy, you are an effective leader. Listen to those who can offer guidance and solutions, and you will earn just as much respect as if you did it all yourself.

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✏ Power Planning: A Mt. Everest Kind of Sunday

Is climbing Mount Everest on your bucket list? If so, is your plan to book your flight, make the 22-hour trip to Nepal, show up and simply hike up the 31,000-ft. ascent to the top of the 60-million-year-old mountain? Of course not — you will first invest your time and effort in carefully constructing a detailed plan. A few facts to consider as you plan this expedition: it will cost you ~$75,000, you’re going to need an experienced ‘Sherpa’ to assist you in putting the logistics together for the 60-day hike and help guide you; be prepared, maximum wind speeds of 200 MPH and temperatures – 76°.

A bit of an extreme example, but I wanted to illustrate a point — challenges require extreme thought and planning to produce successful results. As life continues to increase in speed each year of my professional life, and the challenges and responsibilities increase, I understand that change is inevitable and constant. Never get too comfortable with any routine in your life or career because the competition for market share pushes companies and their staffs to the brink to be an innovator vs. a follower. However, there is one constant over the past 25+ years in my routine that has not changed, and that is spending an hour or so each Sunday evening on my weekly planning.

The power of weekly planning lies in the perspective and control it provides for your life; it allows you a clear path that puts you in a position to be proactive, rather than reactive as the distractions of work and life come at you from all directions. It also eliminates stress, makes you better-prepared for unexpected obstacles and allows you to evaluate your progress. For even the most talented people, time management is demanding, and planning is the most important part of the formula. By spending a small chunk of time without distraction, you can created a powerful weekly action plan to be your compass in efficiency and effectiveness as you navigate the week.

So how do you start? I’ll walk you through the routine I follow. Remember, this is an activity that is based on your personality. Some require specific action plans to accompany their weekly plan, while others work efficiently and simply create a brief road map to ensure they have their priorities in order. Here is how I structure my personal plan:

  • Data dump. The first thing I do is grab a pen and paper and do what I call a “data dump”.  I review the previous week — did I accomplished the items I set as priority? Then, I’ll write down everything I can think of that needs attention, both business and personal, for the upcoming week.
  • Prioritize. I use a numerical system to prioritize the tasks. It’s simple: 1 for high priority, 2 for moderate and 3 for a task that is low in priority. It’s important to note: always put the big tasks first, those that will require the most time need to be the highest priority. The smaller tasks will fall into place after that.
  • Time. I review each task and assign the amount of time I estimate it will take to execute. Times can range from 5-10 minutes, or as high as 6-8 hours; either way it is critical that you overestimate rather than underestimate.
  • Deadline. Assign a deadline for each task. Some may fall within that given week, others may be long-term — but I know that there are specific tasks that need to be completed in phases to meet the end goal.
  • Resources. Evaluate each assignment and determine if the task is mine, or if it will require the attention of others. If it demands input, resources or feedback from others, I highlight it and note which individuals (by name and/or departments) will contribute.
  • Personal obligations. I make a separate list which includes personal or family obligations. Bottom line: you must make time for you and your family to live a balanced, successful life.
  • Build it. Create your weekly planner. First fill in all your personal obligations, then follow by filling the time slots with the tasks based on rank. Finally, structure it using the estimated time you have predetermined in the slots listed.

There is a caveat to all this…even the best-laid plans need adjusting. That’s why daily planning is also critical in the process. At the end of each day, I review that respective day and my week ahead and may have to adjust as needed. While I try to avoid making changes to my high-priority items, I may move around other tasks or push them if the deadline is not necessarily near because of an unexpected task that hits. Don’t be disappointed or feel as if the plan is not an effective tool. Your planner serves as a best-case scenario. However, if you make the planning sessions a habit, after time, you will be a much better judge of your time and find yourself with more motivation, direction and peace in your life.

Bottom line: if you fail to plan, then plan to fail . . .

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✏ The Art of Listening

“I heard you the first time!” Sound familiar? This is the battle cry from kids when you’re trying to get them to complete a task. I give the kids credit, though; they aren’t saying, “I listened the first time!” It proves the point that there is a difference between listening and hearing. We wouldn’t have to tell them more than once if they were listening.

Most of us have the ability to hear, but do we really listen? Often, we tune out because we either don’t agree with what’s being said, or miss out because we are already thinking about what we want to say next.

“Leaders who don’t listen will eventually be surrounded by
people who have nothing to say.”
– Andy Stanley

Did you know:

  • We spend an average of 55% of the day engaged in listening, and 70% in talking
  • Most people only remember 17-25% of the things they heard in a given day
  • The average woman speaks 20,000 words per day vs. 7,000 for the male counterpart
  • To be fair, it is a fact that men only use half their brain to listen while women use the entire brain

 

To be an effective leader, listening is a critical skill. You cannot do everything yourself, so empowering others becomes your resource for information. You may have an opinion, and one that serves the conversation, but interruption only causes frustration and wasted time. Listen with intent, respect and curiosity — or you may miss that one great thought due to your impatience.

Follow up by saying, “What I’m hearing you say is…”. This is where miscommunication is discovered.

How can you become a more effective listener?

  1. Don’t interrupt. We are far too eager to interject our opinions. The other person isn’t halfway done, and we have either interrupted or have zoned them out so we can construct our reply. Try instead to just listen: focus their words, and after they have completed their thought, allow a pause to gather your thoughts. It may feel uncomfortable at first, but if everyone in the conversation practices this habit, the dialogue will be improved and the content will be constructive and beneficial. Additionally, if you are actively listening to others, they will learn how to actively listen to you.

 

  1. Make eye contact. Seems simple, but the skill we were all taught as children has become a lost art. Engaging with someone eye-to-eye is a form of respect. It tells the other person that they have your attention. Some say to never trust a person who can’t look you in the eyes when you talk, or when they talk to you. If that’s true, we have a problem.

 

  1. No distractions. Our phones, computers, other people and paperwork can cause us to multi-task rather than listen. The distractions are all around us, and that results in ineffective communication. If one takes the time to personally talk with you, rather than sending an email or text, show them they are valued by putting distractions on hold long enough to solve the situation at hand. Put your mobile phone face down, so you’re not tempted to look at it, or better yet, completely out of sight.

 

  1. Have an open mind. In most cases, we either interrupt or are already processing our response during a dialogue. We do this because we feel as if we must defend our point of view like Custer’s last stand. Relax, listen, and process what the other person is saying without a preconceived opinion. It’s a discussion, not a debate. It’s a win-win situation; the conversation becomes more efficient and the possibilities to discover new ideas are endless. And as a bonus, you earn respect.

 

  1. Create dialogue. Allow the dialogue to flow in an effort to find resolve, discover strategy, encourage creativity or simply hear someone out. Engage in a productive dialogue and in most cases, you will find it to be both effective and efficient.

 

You will immediately recognize the impact listening has when you see the trust and respect gained by those you talk with. Human interaction is the key to building trust, and it is through the rapport we have in a one-on-one setting that matters most. When you don’t listen, people stop talking. And when you lose communication, you lose control.

My father always told me, “God gave you two ears and one mouth; you should listen twice as much as you talk.”  He was right — you can learn a lot when you listen, and really hear!

Leadership is a privilege. Make a difference today.

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✏ Loyalty: Employees Quit Bosses, Not Leaders

Do you think poor leadership has an effect on team performance?

ABSOLUTELY. YOU CAN’T CREATE GREAT FOLLOWERS UNDER POOR LEADERSHIP.

In today’s business environment, being a leader isn’t simply a job title. One must have the ability to motivate and inspire a team to empower them to deliver the company goals, and do so in an engaging spirit.

A Gallup poll of more 1 million employed U.S. workers concluded that the No. 1 reason people quit their jobs is a bad boss or immediate supervisor. 75% of workers who voluntarily left their jobs did so because of their boss — not the position or company itself. In spite of how good a job may be, people will quit if the relationship is not healthy. “People leave managers not companies…in the end, turnover is mostly a manager issue.”

We often talk about the differences between a “boss” and a “leader”. It’s a simple way to distinguish the difference in a definition that has changed dramatically over the years, as more studies point to the success of what traits make great leaders.

For years, many individuals in a position of power abused their role through a lack of integrity, sensitivity, honesty and inspiration. A key trait that is absent in poor leadership is empathy. In order to be an effective leader, you have to respect the relationship, and have a genuine understanding of the roles and responsibilities of your team members.

Your job is to support, encourage and inspire. I have said numerous times in my blog posts, LEADERSHIP IS A PRIVILEGE. You are tasked with a tremendous responsibility — one that goes beyond your own self-development.

If you don’t truly understand the requirements and expectations, then maybe leadership isn’t for you. The problem is, too many people have an ego that doesn’t allow them to step away, or they don’t have a mentor showing them how to be a good leader.

A great phrase most of us have heard is “loyalty breeds loyalty”.  In order for a leader to receive loyalty, you must first give it. YOU are the example of leadership in everything you do. If you demonstrate commitment, you will gain it back in return. If you demonstrate integrity, you will gain it back in return. If you demonstrate character, you will gain it back in return.

It starts with leaders who understand that to get loyalty from others, you must first give it. Leaders who take the initiative in demonstrating commitment to their teams are far more successful in gaining commitment in return. If you have their back, they will have yours.

“Strong leaders won’t create followers; they create more leaders.”

A strong leader provides empowerment and allows their employees to grow. They serve as a mentor, with a shared goal of watching you succeed. By contrast, a poor leader will hold you back professionally, developmentally — and will create an atmosphere that lacks challenge, encouragement and personal gain.

Let’s be realistic, no leader is perfect. Each will have their own strengths and weaknesses; however, effective leaders have the self-awareness to identify areas for improvement and are dedicated to constantly growing.

Good management takes effort and experience, but it’s really pretty straightforward. It does require a tremendous amount of work, and with that comes a dedication to craft your team toward success. That’s the reward though, watching those under your mentorship succeed on their own.

Bottom line, don’t take your employees for granted; they’re the most valuable asset you have.

VENTURE + LEAD + PROSPER

Humbled to lead,

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✏ The Gift That Keeps on Giving

A tribute to my father and inspiration: Vic Pisano, Sr.

November 8, 1924 – April 30, 2017

Vic Pisano, Sr.

Today is for you, Dad!  Happy Birthday…

For as long as I can remember, my father always enjoyed his birthday.  He would talk about it weeks in advance to remind us, expressing the importance that we go all out and buy him very nice gifts and celebrate at a fancy restaurant.  He said we owed him for all the birthdays he spoiled us as kids.

The reality was he didn’t care about the gifts or the fancy restaurant; he was happy with anything as long as it was with family.  That was kind of man my father was; family always came first.

Simply put, Vic was an amazing man.

He was what some would call “old-fashioned”, and was a friend to everyone he met. He believed in a handshake and a man’s word. He worked hard, earned his success and helped those in need. He was strong in his faith and knew he would celebrate the day when the Lord took him. He was brave, courageous and full of humility. If he called you friend, you could count on him.

Simply put, Vic was an amazing man.

There were so many lessons he taught us, but what always came first was the importance of family. I have so many distinct memories of my life spent with grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins. So many of those people from my childhood have passed, but the memories are so vivid. As a child, we spent every Sunday having lunch with my grandparents and the extended family would come in and out of their home as if it were an open house.

There was always a table full of food, wine, beautiful stories, and laughter. When my grandparents passed away, we were fortunate that my father, uncle, and aunt, inherited their love for family by carrying on the traditions of spending every Sunday together as a family, which I now do with my own children.

The saddest thing about losing my father is that he died on a Sunday. I didn’t get to sit at a table full of food, wine, beautiful stories, and smiles. That Sunday would be so different from all of the others. And though it breaks my heart that I didn’t get one last Sunday to tell him I loved him, I know that his Sunday dinner that day was the most incredible and beautiful one of all, more than he or us could ever imagine.

I imagine his first Sunday in heaven was filled with family and friends from years past with tables filled with food, wine, wonderful stories, and smiles. There were hugs, kisses and more love at his dinner table than we as a family could ever provide because he was at the Lord’s table.

I know he looked down on us as we mourned, but in my heart, I felt as if he was telling each one of his children…it’s your turn to carry on. He had taught us so many lessons over the years, and God had the confidence in us that we were prepared and ready to live life without him.

Now that I have accepted the role of continuing the traditions that my dad, my grandparents, and generations before them had celebrated, it’s my turn to teach my own children how important family is. It’s my turn to honor him.

“A father should be his son’s first hero . . .”

Moving forward…

Following his sudden death on April 30, 2017, it was an incredibly challenging period in my life. I knew I needed to work through the grief I was experiencing. And I know it’s precisely what he would have told me. When his birthday rolled around six months later, we decided to celebrate by having a party. He wouldn’t be there physically, but I knew his spirit would be everywhere.

We asked every guest to write their favorite memory of Vic so we could read them aloud to celebrate his life.

What a great party it was! Smiles everywhere, good food, good wine, love, and laughter; all those Sunday nights were. And yes, his spirit was everywhere. It was a beautiful tribute to a man who always put others before himself, and he was loved beyond measure. You could hear it in the words, voices and body language of each person who spoke.

Vic’s birthday celebration on November 8, 2017.
Pictured: The Monday Coffee Club

That evening, I came to the realization that each beautiful, unique and inspiring story needed to be shared.  It would be my honor to carry his legacy forward and dedicate myself to become the man he was.

This is how CHARGE UP came to be . . .

“The gifts that keep on giving are those of his legacy.”

This is the vessel to move from grief to gratitude every day, to celebrate his legacy, and most important, to pay it forward and make an impact in people’s lives the same way he did for more than 80 years. Venture, Lead, Prosper…those are his initials.

If you didn’t have the privilege of knowing my father, I’d like you to learn at least one more thing about him. I can think of no better way to end this than with laughter…

Vic always made family and friends laugh over the years because of a knack he had for what we called “Vic’isms,” and when corrected, he would respond, “Whatever, same thing!”. He would take a word, phrase or sentence, say it wrong, and truly make it his own. Eventually, we needed a journal to keep up, so the “Vic-tionary” was created!

With that, I would like to present you some of my favorites on this special day:

When he called my sister-in-law from the hospital when my wife was giving birth to our second child, Catherine, he told her, “they are going to seduce the baby!”  He meant to say “induce” the baby.

His response: WHATEVER, SAME THING…

He once told us all that he was going to be remodeling his home and would be putting “Gerber” carpet in.  He meant to say “Berber carpet.”

His response: WHATEVER, SAME THING…

We complimented his shirt at a family gathering, and he proudly told us that it was from “Banana Republican.”  He meant to say “Banana Republic.”

His response: WHATEVER, SAME THING…

He was describing a scene of an accident that he passed and told us that he thought it was severe because the police officer was giving the man “UPS.”  He meant to say CPR.

His response: WHATEVER, SAME THING…

While preparing a meal, he told us that we should be using a “SEGREGATED” knife.  He meant to say “serrated.”

His response: WHATEVER, SAME THING…

“My father didn’t tell me how to live; he lived and I watched him do it.”

I sincerely appreciate you allowing me the platform to dedicate this to my father.

Charge Up, Dad!

I hope you are proud; we love and miss you every day…

VENTURE + LEAD + PROSPER

Blessed to carry on his legacy,

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